*1) Communication Skills*
Not everyone that CAN talk knows HOW to talk, and not every one that CAN listen (possesses functional ears) knows HOW to listen. Some are good at talking, but bad at listening, some are bad at both, a few are good at both. You need a balance, you need to TALK TO and LISTEN TO your partner in the right way if your marriage will follow the right way.
*2) Forgiving Skills*
A Great marriage consists of 2 Great Forgivers.
As long as you married a human being, and you are a human being yourself, offense will come, you'll offend each other consciously and unconsciously. The ability to forgive offenses as they come (without seeking revenge) will save you and your partner heartaches and save your marriage from Malice and Bitterness.
*3) Apologizing Skills*
"I AM SORRY" Those three words can go a long way to salvage your marriage and cut short certain problems before they start and escalate.. You should be so good at apologizing that you can apologize even when you are not at fault just for peace to reign. Welcome to Marriage.
*4) Letting Go Skills*
It's not everything you see your partner do or hear them say that you react to. SOMETIMES you ignore as if you didn't see or hear. Don't let your wahala be like bicycle, easy to start.. Be good at Forbearing, you'll need this especially when dealing with your partners weaknesses (everybody has theirs).
*5) Having Fun Skills*
What is Marriage without Fun and Friendship?
Always squeezing your face like someone that is licking lime will not help anybody. Some Men, their wives can't even joke with them, wetin happen? It's Marriage, not Wrestling. Don't carry your age, class, status, anointing, achievements and enter your marriage space, become a friend and lover once you get home to your partner. Keep your TITLE in the office, otherwise your marriage will become a BATTLE.
*6) Selflessness Skills*
One of the challenges with Marriage is Selfish People. What will I gain? "If I give him a foot massage, what will he give me in return?" "If I wash the plates, what will she do?" Always keeping scores. Doing things to get things in return. Only doing things if you (will) get something in return, Don't make this your mentality..
